Marriage as an Irrational Decision That Limits
Individual Freedom
Irony, Humour and Sarcasm
We are often overhasty. And that can be a very bad
thing, as clearly shown by the many examples of our
collective or private life. To take our ideas too
much to heart (instead of using our reason) is to
sink into the traps and the falsehood that those
ideas might contain. To take our instincts and
feelings too much to heart may drive us to wars, to
secondary life paths and goals, to silly and foolish
doings.
Many wars, many conflicts – the large scale ones,
but also those involving our everyday life – have to
do with our propensity to act according to our heart
and our received ideas. We don’t reflect on reality
as we should. We are hasty and act too much with our
hearts, and that is an evil of all mankind.
And isn’t it the same with love? Isn’t love a matter
of the heart too? Aren’t our loves impetuous stuffs,
very often?
We usually say that those who think don’t marry, and
those who marry do not think. In fact, if we were
rational and egoistic beings, that could be a
reasonable and logical way to behave. Marriage
involves too many compromises and limits to the
individual freedom of both partners. To prevent
conflicts of interests and idiosyncrasy clashes, not
marrying could be indeed a rational decision.
Fortunately or unfortunately we are not very
rational beings. We can’t avoid feelings, and we
can’t stop following our feelings and our instincts
- and between them the instinct of love, and
marriage. Maybe we are rushing when falling in love
or marrying, or mingling love and marriage. But we
can’t help it. It’s in our human nature.
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Quotations
Marriage and the couple
Never the couple has been so fragile, and yet never it
has been so strong the necessity of building up a
couple. In an anonymous world and atomized society where
calculation and the interest are so spread, the couple
means intimacy, protection, complicity, solidarity.
E. Morin, French philosopher and sociologist, Method
V
The family, as everyone knows, is the future of love and
its natural outcome, but that fact has never been able
to save love, the couple, or the family.
André Comte-Sponville, French philosopher, A short
Treatise on the Great Virtues
It takes patience to appreciate domestic bliss.
George Santayana, 1863-1952, American philosopher,
The Life of Reason
The art of marriage is to know how to pass from love to
friendship without hurting love.
André Maurois, 1885-1967, French writer, Lettres à
l’inconnue
Quotations
Marriage: Humour, Irony, Sarcasm
Take my word for it, the silliest woman can manage a
clever man; but it takes a very clever woman to manage a
fool.
Rudyard Kipling, 1865-1936, English writer, Plain Tales
from the Hills
Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut
afterwards.
Benjamin Franklin, 1706-1790, American physicist and
politician, Poor Richard's Almanack
Marriage is like a besieged fortress. Everyone outside
wants to get in and everyone inside wants to get out.
Pierre-Marie Quitard, 1782-1882, French writer, Études
sur les Proverbes Français
I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared
for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought
jewellery.
Rita Rudner, American actress,
http://www.delafont.com/comedians/Rita-Rudner.htm
Marriage is a fine institution - but I'm not ready for
an institution.
Attributed to Mae West, 1892-1980, American actress, in
Laurence Peter Quotations for our Time
A husband is what is left of a lover, after the nerve
has been extracted.
Helen Rowland, 1875-1950, American writer, A guide to
men.
Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight.
Unknown authour
Tho’ marriage makes man and wife one flesh, it leaves
‘em still two fools.
William Congreve, 1670-1729, Irish writer, The Double
Dealer
Marriage is the chief cause of divorce.
Groucho Marx, 1890 - 1977, American actor in
http://www.groucho-marx.com/
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